"You are to be, in a sense, a 'savior' of your wife. Her life, because of you, should be more godly, should be more joyful, should be more prosperous - that the work of salvation is advancing in her life. And it's advancing at a much greater pace because God is using you as an instrument. You're not an obstacle to the saving work of God in her, but you're an instrument. She's becoming more whole, more complete, more beautiful, more assured in Christ, because of her life with you. ...Could your wife say that she's becoming more whole because of her relationship to you? She's more complete, she's more like Christ? And let's not forget, the fruit of the spirit is 'love, *joy*...' There's more joy - she's just free-er. She's more secure - not in her self-esteem, but in the love of Christ and in the love of her husband. You see? We're to work. Now, this is not something that just kind of happens. We're to work. We're to work at being a leader. How can you be a leader, unless you know God's will? Because of the only roadmap is God's will - His Word. So, in order to properly direct your wife - in order to properly be a head - you have to saturate your life in the Word of God. And in order to be an instrument of salvation, you yourself must be constantly conformed more and more to the image of Christ, you see? ..."

---Paul Washer

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What an awesome sermon. We're to be for the progress and joy of faith of the one we're espoused to (Colossians 1).